The older I get and the longer Hottie and I have been together (20 years), the more I love her and the more passionate we are. Been thinking why we are so happy when relationships are so hard to succeed in general society.
Society tells you to find love through wild adventures, then slow down. Maybe society has its backwards. Maybe it’s not fast passion then slow settling. Instead, maybe it’s slow love for sustainable passion.
We were both slowly dated train wrecks until we found each other, waiting for the right one.
We married slow, waiting five years to have kids. Living wild 20’s together.
The longer we’ve been together, the more fast and adventurous we are becoming… because we now know (mostly) who we are without having rushed to figure it out.
- Slow meant less mistakes.
- Less mistakes means less resentment for past actions.
- Less resentment means more trust.
- More trust = more everything.
We did “slow” in the beginning so we could do fast, fun, and intimate… sustainably.
We both want more of each other, always.
More time together.
I take “coffee breaks” just to spend lunch with her, just her and I, in the middle of a day while the kids are at school.
We are now more patient with each other.
We are now more intimate with each other, putting our 20’s affection to shame in our 40’s.
More presence.
More touch.
I love her, and I hope more people can feel true, innocent, comfortably vulnerable love like this in their lives.
